Being pregnant in France: Oh Baby!

Being pregnant in France: Oh Baby!

Everybody likes babies. Ok, maybe not everybody, but most people. Most people like other people’s babies, even if they don’t want any themselves. The French Government likes French people’s babies. And they want them to have more. All of which leads us to that big life-changing time in your life: being pregnant in France!

Giving birth sounds daunting in any language, but the French have done as much as possible to make it as easy as possible and keep the birth rate high. So let’s dive in, shall we?!

The French Way of having a baby

In general, having a baby is a lot more low-key in France. It is considered a normal part of life, and so it is not as “celebrated” as it is in the U.S. The most anyone will ask if you are pregnant or planning on having a baby, is if they see you avoiding that ubiquitous glass of wine. And that too, is only amongst close friends.

a) Conceiving a Bébé

Healthcare is free in France, and annual doctors’ visits are highly encouraged, so medical costs are not an issue.

If you are having difficulty conceiving, the French governments will pay for IVF and other treatments until the age of 43. There is some controversy around this because single women and LGBT couples are excluded, but there’s hope that this might change in the future.

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b) No Baby Shower or Gender reveal Parties

So you’ve just crossed that 3-month mark, and are ready to announce to the world that you are “EXPECTING A BABY”! Except in France (or in Paris atleast), you better turn off that Caps Lock. Most people here do a very low key announcement to their friends, usually over drinks (non-alcoholic of course), and that is it.

Once in a while, your friends will ask you how the pregnancy is going, and after, they just wait for you to announce when the baby has arrived. There are no gender-reveal parties or baby showers, or any other such extravaganza.

This might seem a bit of a party-pooper, but who feels like partying that much when you are bloated with 10 gallons of water anyway? Ok, maybe not, but I have to say, I personally preferred the low key approach. There was something very discreet and cozy about keeping it just between our family, and avoiding the commercial aspect of it all.

It is also so much easier to avoid all the hype if it is a difficult pregnancy. Who feels like oohing and ahhing over a baby wipe warmer when they are waiting for important test results?

After the birth, friends will come over individually (i.e. no party here either), and discreetly give a small gift.

c) Picking a French Hospital to give birth

Now that we’ve figured out there are no extravagant gifts, let’s go ahead and book that hospital!

Once you do have that bun in the oven, time to pick a hospital! The general recommendation is to register yourself immediately at the hospital of your choice, because spots fill up fast.

It is a bit like the schooling districts, where your local hospital will likely take you if you are in that hospital zone, but the one further away does not. I suppose it’s good practice for all those future child applications: nursery, middle school, high school, university, etc.

For the most part, I would suggest sticking to the hospital that is the closest. There are a lot of doctors’ appointments, sage-femme (mid-wife) classes, etc . I personally appreciated being within walking distance. There are 3 levels of maternity wards in French Hospitals:

  • Level 1 – normal births
  • Level 2 – moderate urgencies, with reanimation teams on standby
  • Level 3 – the most urgent neo-natal cases

d) French Maternity Leave starts 6 weeks early

Paid Maternity leave in France is 16 weeks and usually starts 6 weeks before the due date. There can also be additional time your employer has negotiated with your union, similar to how French people negotiate vacation time at work. So a friend in the Insurance Industry had 20 weeks, while a friend in the Banking Industry had closer to 30 weeks, even though they were both in the same role. (It’s good to work for a French bank!)

Paternity leave, either way, is a measly 10 days. But I suppose it is better than nothing. Now if you are in the U.S., where there is no paid maternity leave, you are thinking “wow that’s great!” If you are from Canada, where paid maternity leave is a year, you’re thinking, “what, that’s so little!?”

So on average, mat leave in France is not the best, but it is not the best either. In Canada, you only get a portion of your salary. In France, you do get the full amount, and you can take additional congé parental where you receive a smaller amount. Overall, c’est pas mal and with these benefits, France has the highest birth rate in Europe (a little less than 2 kids per woman).

The 16 weeks are allocated with the mandatory stoppage for mat leave is 6 weeks before the due date, although you could push it to 3 weeks before the birth so that you have more weeks after the birth. A lot of people, however, take two extra weeks earlier called congé pathologique which are fully paid and don’t count towards your allocation of 16 weeks. This is especially true in Paris, where people have long commute times on public transportation.

Children's t-shirt Mini Poule with little chick flying

e) Doctor check-ups

You can do the first 6 months of suivie (checkups) at your regular gynecologist, but after that the visits will be at the hospital. There are 3 mandatory ultrasounds, (12, 23 and 32 weeks), but depending on your doctor, they may do more or less. If your doctor does not have an ultrasound machine in their office, and they will refer you to a clinic that does have them (the downside being that they will not be present, and the results will be sent to them later).

I picked a doctor who specialized in ultrasounds and so got an ultrasound every time I saw her every 3-4 weeks. Unless you go to a private clinic or a doctor that is non-conventionné, the full cost is covered by the government, so this is not a factor in choosing your healthcare. (Americans, eat your heart out!)

f) Déclaration de Grossesse

No function of French life would be complete without a bit of bureaucracy, and giving birth is no different.

After the first ultrasound, you will be given a form in triplicate known as the declaration de grossesse. To have all your costs covered, you need to send one version to Assurance Maladie (the medical system) and the other 2 versions to CAF (Caisse d’allocations familiales, the government entity that pays for all sorts of things like child benefits, rent subsidies, etc.) I was quite alarmed by all these forms, but it was actually pretty simple. The doctor fills it out, and you simply mail them in with your name and social ID properly filled in.

g) Reduced Hours at Work

Often times mums-to-be want to wait a bit before declaring their pregnancy to their work. One big benefit though is that once you declare your pregnancy you have the right to work about 5-15% fewer hours (for the same salary), or in certain cases, work from home one day of the week. It depends on the type of job you have, so your HR will let you know.

h) 40 weeks vs 41 Weeks Pregnancy in France

One thing I never quite figured out is why a French baby takes 41 weeks to percolate, while a North American baby takes 40. Are French babies just slow? One explanation I got was that since they can’t accurately date the gestation, they add an extra week. I don’t get it, but I’m not a doctor.

i) French word of the day: Péridurale – Epidural

One thing to note though, things such as laughing gas, birth swimming pools, etc are not common in all french hospitals. So if it is important, you will have to do some research before picking the hospital.

More than 80% of French mothers give birth with an epidural, so the hospitals don’t usually have alternatives. A French friend said that the only question she had for the anesthesiologist is how quickly he could arrive. This is very cultural. For most French women it is easy to not overthink the birth process because their friends do not. Other people’s personal experience influences their own.

The birth plan is to get the baby out!

Anonymous French Maman

Which is not to say that I didn’t have several French friends who wanted a more holistic approach. Particular clinics like Les Bluets in Paris are very popular and spots fill up very quickly, since they offer more natural options.

j) The D-Day (also known as Jour-J)

Congratulations, you are now a parent! Welcome to your sleepless years! Now Kate Middleton aka the Duchess of Cambridge may have left the hospital mere hours after giving birth, but you French Maman, get to settle in for a minimum 3-4 day stay.

And you have to bring stuff. Your hospital will give you a list of what all to bring, but at the minimum you will need:

  • For Bébé:
    • Bodies and underclothes
    • Pyjamas (depending on the season)
    • Bonnet
    • Diapers
    • Thermometer for baby
    • Thermometer for bath
    • Baby hairbrush
    • Baby towels
    • Bibs
    • Lots of socks
    • swaddling cloths
    • sleepsacks
  • For Maman
    • Pajamas
    • Slippers
    • Bath Gowns
    • Personal toiletries
    • etc, etc. etc.

As an example, I took the same bag to the maternity ward that I took to backpack around Australia for 3 weeks. And I still sent my husband home every night to bring more stuff. Get ready for a loooong stay!

children's yellow and white striped tote bag with children's clothes line illustration on it (Bear, socks bib and a body)

And it is not actually that bad. I had some friends complain about the food, but actually, I found it pretty decent. Definitely better tasting than airline food, and by that I mean better than Air France, (which in turn has way better meals than North American airlines).

You do have the option of bringing in your own meals, but the hospital food is calibrated to get all the organs working again as they should after the birth trauma (if you get my drift), so I would stick to their menu.

k) Naming your French Child

In France, you only have 5 days to name the baby and register the birth. And whether it is weekdays or counts weekends is very unclear. And when I say unclear, I mean depending on the town you live in and/or the government official who have in front of you at that particular moment, and whether or not said govt. official is having a bad hair day or such.

French parents prepare themselves with the name well in advance. The hospital will give you the form for the local town hall (depends on where the hospital is based, not where you live). French dads usually sprint to the Mairie (Townhall) even before the baby leaves the hospital. The administrative hell that would occur if you don’t, is too painful to contemplate.

I wanted to wait and get to know the baby before officializing the name, but for my French OH this was the most stressful part of childbirth. (Men!) The responsibility to file the papers was on his shoulders and he took this very seriously.

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l) Going home with baby

Before you get to go home with your bouncing bundle of joy, the French midwives are going to make sure that you know how to take care of your precious little one.

  • Is the baby breastfeeding or bottle-feeding properly? i.e. Is he/she putting on weight? This is a big one, and will often extend your baby’s hospital stay by a day or more.
  • Can you bathe the baby correctly? The midwife will stand there and guide you through it, and then the following day is the Big Test. You or your spouse will have to replicate what you did the day before and prove that you were paying attention. The pressure is on.
  • Are you changing the diaper properly?
  • Cleaning the bellybutton?
  • Do you need a baby ostheopath? (No idea what for.) Pediatrician? Midwife assistance at home?
  • How are you planning to get the baby home? A car seat is a must or they will not let you leave with the baby.

And this is with normal full-term babies. The list will be even longer for premies and more complicated cases. For my kids, we had all the grandparents on standby ready to pitch in, but after 4 days of parent-care lessons, we were actually feeling pretty confident going home. (Plus I’m not sure what all the grandparents remembered about baby-ing, it had been a while!)

m) Carnet de Santé

Before leaving the hospital, you will also get a cute little book called a Carnet de Santé which tracks all the medical records of the child (including vaccinations, dental, eyesight, etc) up to the age of 18. It is precious and irreplaceable, so don’t lose it. (My French OH has lost his, much to my chagrin 🙁 )

French carnet de santé
French Carnet de Santé

n) The PMI Visit after going home

Now after you’ve brought your baby home, you are not scott-free. Your hospital has sent your information to your local PMI (Protection Maternelle et Infantile), and you must take your new-born there within 8 days.

The PMI offers free healthcare to children under 6 years old, and can provide free vaccinations, support for post-natal depression, advice on breastfeeding, etc.

Technically the baby must be seen every month by either the PMI or your pediatrician until he or she is 6 months old. There are other mandatory visits, as well as a medical certificate that is produced at 8 days, 9 months, and 24 months and collected by the PMI.

These visits are all free and certain visits are obligatory.

o) Pelvic floor exercises for Maman

The mother too can have her pregnancy and after-care taken care of by the PMI (most people choose their own gynecologist). Breastfeeding support is offered through the PMI, as well as psychological support.

Maman will also be offered 10 sessions of kinesitherapy réeducation to get all the delicate parts back in working order, and another 10 sessions for the abs. I’ll spare you the details, but there are machines and a lot of poking around. The State takes care of Maman and Bébé.

p) Breastfeeding in France

Just as French people don’t make a big deal about having a baby, they don’t make a big deal about breastfeeding either. Support for breastfeeding is provided during the delivery at the hospital, and at the PMI once the baby goes home.

But amongst parents and other friends and family, there is usually not a stigma around whether or not the mother is breastfeeding. Indeed, I’ve often heard North American expats here complain that they are pressured to stop breastfeeding after 6 months.

As I mentioned above, maternity leave in France usually ends around the 4-month mark. French companies are required by law to provide a secure place to breast-pump for 1 hour per day (split into smaller periods as organized with the employer).

However, at the same time French babies are usually encouraged to start solid foods at 4 months old. So when French moms usually head back to work, there is a tendency among a lot of moms to stop at that point.

q) French Citizenship for Baby

Unfortunately, your baby is not automatically a French citizen, unless you or your spouse is French. France does not have the droit du sol (birthright by land) but rather droit du sang (birthright by blood).

This means that only one of the parents is French, will the child be entitled to French nationality. The child may, however, be able to apply for French nationality at 13 years old assuming that they are born in France, and lived in France continuously for the past 5+ years. Hurray, no more paperwork!

So there you have, all you need to know about being pregnant in France! For some fun baby-related French-English flashcards head over to our Free Printables section.

And if you’re looking for French-inspired baby names, I can help you there too. Here’s my list of names for little girls, as well as one for little boys. A bientôt!


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