The Guide to a typical French Dinner

The Guide to a typical French Dinner

Imagine the scene: Marie-Antoinette in the beautiful Palais of Versailles. Pre- Head being chopped off ofcourse. She is inviting you into a beautifully lit room, chandeliers glittering, the best cristallerie out on display for you, an elaborate dining table set up, and a large bountiful spread of dishes laid out before you. It was designed to impress, and impress it did. The spread was so impressive, the French gave this type of French dining a name: Service à la Française.

Funny enough, this is how we have dinner today in North America. An array of dishes spread out on the table, where everybody helps themselves. Marie-Antoinette didn’t invent it, but in a way, she did change the way French people dine. A typical French dinner today is a bit more complicated.

Elaborate Table setting demonstrating French fine dining
French fine dining

How French eating habits evolved

So as you may remember Marie-Antoinette was guillotined for her extravagance during the French Revolution. French nobles were fleeing the country, and an atmosphere of fear reigned.

Even after the revolution, people remained scared. Putting on such a display implied wealth, and wealth was likely to get your head chopped off.

Liberté, Egalité, Fraternité!” 

National Motto of France

So meals in France began to be servedthe way we see it today, in a restaurant: Service à la Russe.

Now the Russians also suffered their own revolution 130 years later, but Service à la Russe has nothing to do with that. Named after a Russian ambassador in France in the early 1800s, in a restaurant today you expect to be served first the Starter, then the Main course and en suite the Dessert.   Each dish is brought out consecutively and eaten before the next plate is brought out.

How many courses in a French family meal?

You may be eating in a Michelin starred restaurant, or in a typical French household, but it is generally still done the same way. A traditional French meal at home with Service à la Russe will look something like this:

  • Entrées (starters)
    • Salad or another light starter
  • Plat (main dishes)
    • Meat or fish dish
    • Vegetable dish
  • Fromage (a variety of cheeses) 
  • Fruit
  • Digestif 
  • Coffee

Each dish is brought out separately and then taken back to the kitchen when finished. (This becomes even more elaborate during big occasions such as at a dinner party or at Christmas.)

The Pros and Cons of Eating like the French

I will admit this is not always practical for the person serving the food. There is a lot of going back and forth with dishes, cutlery, and glassware. French homes used to be built with separate kitchens, but homeowners are now starting to embrace the “Cuisine Américane“, perhaps to accommodate all this going back and forth!

To translate literally, Cuisine Américane means “American kitchen”, or rather the open-concept kitchen and living room trend that is all over HGTV and Houzz these days!

While knocking down walls may not be a solution, French meal etiquette does have its benefits. For one thing, the food doesn’t get cold. And you don’t mix the flavors and the impact on the palate that the chef intends. It respects the meal and the effort that the chef has put into it. (“Bravo Maman! Bravo Papa!”)

French Food Etiquette at a Dinner Party

The conundrum that this leads to is that, as a guest at a dinner party, you are never quite sure how many dishes are coming and should be saving room for the next one.  

A French dinner guest may ask for a second helping while the dish is still on the table, but not after the host has taken it away. For example, if the Roast Beef has left the table, and the next dish is Green Beans, you don’t get to ask for the Roast Beef to come back after you’ve finished your beans!

And picky eaters beware, it is also quite rude to ask for changes and substitutes to your meal, unless it is for something serious like allergies. You are to eat what is in front of you!

French Culture of Dining

Included in all this is the other quirk of French table manners:  you must finish your plate, otherwise, the host will be offended. So you can imagine the overeating that can occur if you don’t plan properly. 

Generally, the entire plate should be wiped clean with bread from the baguette before the next course is served.  On more formal dinners, plates may be changed between courses. The plate will, in any case, be changed before dessert.

In some cultures, if you consistently finish your plate, your host will worry that you didn’t get enough, and insist that you have more.  I’ve had to rescue my poor French husband on more than one occasion, where he assumed good manners dictate that he continue eating. 

On the other hand, a French host will only casually offer a second serving (or not). If the person is still hungry, but too polite to say otherwise, there’s always plenty of cheese and baguette at the end of the meal!

Key list of Traditional French Menu items
Traditional French Menu – Share to Pinterest

This may all seem very complex and extravagant, but it is actually meant to encourage a long relaxing meal, allowing for conviviality and good digestion. (And for our picky eaters, it is a way to ensure that everybody eats their veggies!) 

French people love to discuss and debate all sorts of topics, and a proper dinner among family and friends should take a good 2-3 hours. Bon appétit!

Are you ready to eat as many courses as a typical French dinner? If you are interested in learning the French words for each item in the menu, don’t hesitate to download our free flashcards.

A bientôt!

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